[aiyaja]

Never in my life have I ever pictured myself to fall for a younger guy. Normally, once I know a guy's age, it's either a no go or a yes yo. I haven't dated for 2 years or so. It took me nearly 3 years to finally close the chapter of my last relationship in my heart. Even then, the last guy was just one of those rare people you meet in your life where you can never truly disremember them; he will always hold a piece of my heart but things can never be. Anyway, so I've been going places, hanging out, living my young life and uh, I met this funny, bizarre, but really cute guy who happens to be younger than me by a year. I was quite surprised as he looks older than me or perhaps I look young for my age? He makes me laugh all the time. I really like him but in a way, I've lived my life under this perception, only date older men and now that I've met this guy, it's really challenging my preferences, morals quite like.

At times, he's a kid, at times, he's very mature and protective but at the end of the day, I'm an older sister. I like him but there are doubts in my mind like stability, maturity, wisdom, experience and so forth. Age isn't everything but sometimes, through age, you learn a lot about yourself, your identity, what you want, where you're going, and I feel as though he's still too young for that. He's still changing, still searching for what he wants and wishes to pursue. You know how women, we settle quicker than men familywise? I just don't know if I can depend on him that way without pressuring him.

We're dating, nothing serious yet but I'm a type of person where, I just don't date around. I sort of live by nang'ake rules. I only date and enter serious relationships with guys I can see myself with and possibly marriage if things fall into place in the future. I don't like to lead people on and I'm honest about my feelings. So anyway, just felt like venting.

[Sunny]

To be honest, I think it's OK to date younger guys as long as he's not too young and that he's at a mature level where you can accept lolz, I wouldn't mind dating someone young, as long as it is only a year or two because if you think about, when your 30, he'll only be 28-29 and when your 40 he'll be 38-39 and you know it's not that BIG of a deal really lolz. Although myself I've not date anyone younger lolz just around my age, a year older or 3 years older was the most I've gotten to know someone older.
My sister got married to someone 5 years younger than herself, she met him when she was 25 and he was 21-22 lolz, fell in love, and he ended up asking her for her hand in marriage in Paris at the Eiffel Tower lolz she got married when she was 27 and he was 24. They still together, it's been like 7 years now, he's mature, sometimes still like a child but when he's serious he's just like other old men lol.
Yours is only one year younger I think it's fine, it's just us that set our mind to these kind of things or set the rules or believe that younger, cross off list lol.

[noiki]

yeah i think it's cool but myself i don't think it's for me. i guess bc i'm always acting a lot younger than my age i really need someone to act older and that means older in age too.

plus bc i have a younger brother, i always think it's like dating a younger brother or something lolz.

[aiyaja]

Thanks guys. I'm sort of like Noiki, it's the youngest child syndrome I have that makes me act a lot younger than my age too. I'll be turning 23 soon but people still mistaken me as 16. I remember walking into a casino one day with friends and this lady was like how old are you? I'm like 22, she's like where's your ID and when I showed it to her, she was like man, what do you eat to keep so young. I don't know, Asians don't age as fast I guess.

I'm so used to the Pee Chai sort of thing where he takes care of me lol Where I can be the brat and he he has the patience for me or he's the one who understands things you know? LOL

I feel weird having a younger guy, guess, I'm not used to it yet. Anyway, just depends if I like him enough to avoid this whole age thing. I'm still thinking lol Gosh, how did Aum get over this? lol

[noiki]

lolz i can't help it, i'm short too so it makes me look even younger. plus when i go places with my younger brother he tries to act older than me and stuff like he's my older brother lolz. he actually likes it when ppl think he's older than he really is. he's actually had his share of dating older women too lolz, he tells me about it and i'm like...urrr i told you the age limit was that the girl can't be older than our older sister lolz.

[nang]

I'm w/some who is a year younger then me. We have been dating for 11 years now. He is a great guy. My boyfriend, he is really mature for his age. He cooks, work and clean...not much guy out there does this. It's only the other way around. I'm living a good life. I'm lucky to have found a guy who is really mature and take responsibility.

Like the saying goes. Age is just a number. If he makes you happy and feel good about yourself then let that be. Don't doubt the age thing. There are some guys who are older who still act and think like a kid. Who doesn't take responsibility.

I don't see nothing wrong w/dating someone who is younger by a year or so. It's very natural.
If a guy can date a girl who is younger then him, so can a woman.

[Mai]

I'm starting to accept it more cause I see it so often, although personally for myself I wouldn't be ok with it. Although I cant help but feel sorry for the female side, cause in the end I think the females are the ones at a disadvantage. I dont have a problem with the women dating the younger men, cause I just see them as a victim. But I do have a problem with the guy. Personally for me, it sheds a negative light on him before I even know him. I think if you date a younger guy, sure he'd date you, but will he marry you? Will he leave you stranding? Will he be proud to show you to his parents and friends? Many times in the cases I've seen, the answer is NO. Every relationship is different though, sometimes this kind of relationship does last and is a good one versus what we're traditionally use to.

I would be too immature and spoiled to consider anyone younger. I need someone with a lot of patience and I dont think someone younger than me would have that trait I get id a lot, which is normal for us asians, but I'm really giddy like a teenager too . I'm fine with a guy that looks young, but he cant act like a teenager ALL the time. It's like a double standard for me

[sarN]

i love younger guy , if he is 10 years younger that me , that's a dream come true . Child molester , no . Suger mama , yes indeed . Go for it girl , dating younger guy is like finding the fountain of youth , it will make you fell young and attractive .

[Sunny]

at least one is fully supportive

[Mai]

sarn. you feel younger and more attractive, but do onlookers feel the same way? or do they think oh gosh he's dating his mother or older sister. It's bad enough that dating the same age we already look older than the guy lol.

Perhaps if you go for a younger guy, go for one that's not asian white guys tend to look older than their age nways. But dont forget asian guys once they hit their 40's they look like they're a senior already

[sarN]

on looker are just jealous and prejudices of woman being older than man , there nothing wrong with that , yet the idea man must be older than woman to be consider an item are just plain old fashion , now a days , it doesn't matter but there are 'some ppl' view it as scandalous , tragedy , coyote at loose --- but ya' have to realize , pleasure is share within two ppl not the whole town .

This post has been edited by sarN: 12 September 2009 - 12:59 PM

[aiyaja]

I embrace age. I don't want to date younger guys just so I can regain my youth then how would that be true love right? But I understand, age is really just a number, it just depends on how you live your life. I usually don't live life through numbers, I go by how my body responds, I still can do things like a kid but I don't act like one, okay, maybe here and there lol but relationships in particular, I tend to use age as one of the deciding factors.

I've only had one boyfriend so far so in a way, I'm new at this dating thing too. And he was a lot older than me. Sure, he had the patience, the wisdom, the intelligence, the life experience that I didn't have but I always felt like I was chasing him, like we weren't holding hands in the same direction. I didn't fit in too well with his friends either. They were all married with kids, professionals while I was still in my undergrad years. It was really awkward, I couldn't fully immerse myself in any of the conversations. I think because he was so much older than me he lead most of the time and that in a way made me feel like a button on his shirt lol And omg, he has so much baggage, it's unfair. And because he's lived his life before mine, made all of this mistakes, he would give me advice/pointers about this and that. Okay, I know he has good intentions but dude, I want to make my own decisions, my own mistakes too! I think that's where the breaking point came in lol We both began to change. I began to need less and less of him as I became more and more independent in what I wanted, what I wanted to pursue, and what to do in my life. I guess, I no longer needed him to guide me through in a way.

So I guess, younger grass for me now. He's only a year younger so we're about the same age group, have so many things in common. I get his jokes, he gets mine!!!

Ugh, I'm either attracted to guys too old for me or too young............errr. I totally understand Fang lol My exboyfriend was like a decade older than me too lol Ugh, I'm still so traditional in ideals

This post has been edited by aiyaja: 12 September 2009 - 05:05 PM

[Mai]

I've had younger and older guy friends and for me I prefer the mature older ones. I'm independent but I still like to be treated like a lady. With my younger guy friends, the same friends I share with a sibling, they need to be told what to do to treat you right. Then they wonder why they cant get the girls

One day when you met an older guy and if you love him, nothing will matter even if he's wearing the pants and not all older guys wear the pants in a relationship either. It just depends on the guy, if he's the entire package with lots of choices of course he'd have an advantage. The same with younger guys, just cause they're younger doesnt mean they follow, most of the times they're the ones leading the relationship lol. Cause the woman is older, she's eager to please, financially and sexually

The same can be said about younger guys, maybe one day if you met a younger guy, if you love him you'll look past the things that use to bother you lol

[sarN]

i had never been in a serious relationship nor a long term one , i'm afraid of commitment , tie , bond , anything that have to do with a plan future, i feel that i'm an un-fatefully person , therefore I don't take anyone seriously . I do not like older man especially one that's 10 + years , good god , NO! I'm still a kid at heart , older man will bore me with lecture and they can not handle me because i'm loud , messy , un-lady like , talkative and annoying ! No good man will want me.

You sound very conservative & modest since you like older man but you can not immerse myself in any of the conversations your ex & his friends have, therefore you must be a late bloomer. Late bloomer are girls that just came out of their fantasy and into the realm world. There nothing wrong to try something new , as long as it make you happy , go for it and embrace it . Men are like a box of chocolate you never know which one is your favorite until you taste it all

[Sunny]

lolz its nice to come out of the shell and fall in love